Now that we are home, we got the results that Jackie's DNA matches her birthmother's by 99.99%. This is to prove to the US Embassy in Guatemala that the woman relinquishing her is, in fact, her birthmother (as opposed to stolen by an underground black market).
When we received Jonathan's DNA match, I was relieved and happy. We only had a super grainy xerox of a polariod to sorta make out what b-mom looked like. I had been very worried it would not match and aggravated that it took well over two months to schedule.
I was almost sure that Jackie's would match, since she was taken in by the lawyer after most agencies had closed. If the lawyer doubted b-mom's relinquishment, I'm sure he would not have taken the risk of not being able to find a family for her if adoptions in Guatemala closed, does that make sense? I wasn't prepared for the rush of emotion seeing this mother's face. I cried. I want to reach through the picture and hold this woman close. Lest we forget, adoption starts with a loss. I experienced it--I have no medical history nor do not know what my birthmother looks like or if I have biologically related brothers and sisters. While culturally it is 'normal' to take a solemn faced photo, she just seems sad. What was she feeling that day? Losing a child to adoption due to poverty is circumstance must be a loss comparable to the death of a child. Wouldn't you think so?
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An encouragement during the wait
J - "Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever." Heb. 11:8
A - "And the Lord, He is the One who goes before you. He will be with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you; do not fear nor be dismayed." Deut. 31:8
C - "Cast all your care upon him, for he cares for you." I Peter 5:7
K - "Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me under the shadow of your wings, from the wicked who oppress me, from my deadly enemies who surround me." Ps 17:8,9
I - "In every thing give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." I Thess. 5:18
E - "Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning." James 1:17
And a great "Get Out of PGN" verse:
"I waited patiently for the Lord; and He inclined to me, and heard my cry. He also brought me up out of a horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my steps. He has put a new song in my mouth, praise to our God; many will see it and fear, and will trust in the Lord." Ps. 40:1-3
A - "And the Lord, He is the One who goes before you. He will be with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you; do not fear nor be dismayed." Deut. 31:8
C - "Cast all your care upon him, for he cares for you." I Peter 5:7
K - "Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me under the shadow of your wings, from the wicked who oppress me, from my deadly enemies who surround me." Ps 17:8,9
I - "In every thing give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." I Thess. 5:18
E - "Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning." James 1:17
And a great "Get Out of PGN" verse:
"I waited patiently for the Lord; and He inclined to me, and heard my cry. He also brought me up out of a horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my steps. He has put a new song in my mouth, praise to our God; many will see it and fear, and will trust in the Lord." Ps. 40:1-3
About Me
- SpEdcar
- I'm a mom, an adoptee, a seminary wife, and lil on the wild side. Ok. Not really, but I like to think of myself that way. Well, maybe I don't. I'm indecisive or at least I think I am. I'll decide later. Update: Now I am a blessed mom of TWO Guat-tots, a pastor's wife, and out of the classroom for a school year or two raising my kids and watching my friend's infant.
Adoption Timeline
January 14, 2007: announced to my Dad that we decided to adopt just like he adopted me & my brother and will name her after Mom, 4 days before he passed..
Oct. 13 Baby born!
Nov. 9 171H - Daddy spies María José on the agency website before making a phone call that changes our lives
Dec. 11 DNA authorization
Dec 17 Submitted to family court
Dec. 22 DNA drawn
Jan 3 DNA results
Jan 7 Family Court interview
Feb 13 CNA registration confirmed
Feb 15 Out of FC confirmed
Feb 28 Preapproval Email for the Embassy
March 6 Told we were submitted to PGN, but untrue.
March 26 Submitted to PGN, confirmed.
May 1 Called PGN to find out we had been kicked out since April 24th.
May 2 Attorney confirmed he retrieved our file before PGN closed it's doors for an internal investigation.
May 6 Heard we are back in PGN. PTL! untrue
May 15th Emailed to double check and just as we feared... we have not been put back into PGN.
May 18th Signed and stuffed support letters. Praying like crazy for God's provisioning to bring Baby home.
May 21-25 Tenth year anniversary in Guatemala meeting our sweet baby and considering (or confirming) a calling to missions in Guatemala permanently.
June 9th Re-entered PGN
July 4th Birthmother Interview in PGN
July 15th OUT of PGN!!!!!!!
July 23rd Birthmother's final consent and applied for Mixco birth certificate listing us as parents.
July 30th Adoption halted for final payment
Aug 1st Miracle! Final fee donation
Aug 15th DNA approved by Labcorp to prove the baby has not been switched.
Aug 18 Email sent from US Embassy in Guatemala caught in CAM's spam filter! We won't know about our "pink slip" for 6 days.
Aug 25th We miss our 7:15am US Embassy appointment.
Aug 26th Aaron at US Embassy begging for mercy. Jackie's last night with at her foster home.
Aug 28th US Embassy issues a travel visa to a grateful Daddy. They are "clear for take-off!"
Aug 29th Jonathan meets his lil sis for the first time at Dulles Airport!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oct. 13 Baby born!
Nov. 9 171H - Daddy spies María José on the agency website before making a phone call that changes our lives
Dec. 11 DNA authorization
Dec 17 Submitted to family court
Dec. 22 DNA drawn
Jan 3 DNA results
Jan 7 Family Court interview
Feb 13 CNA registration confirmed
Feb 15 Out of FC confirmed
Feb 28 Preapproval Email for the Embassy
March 6 Told we were submitted to PGN, but untrue.
March 26 Submitted to PGN, confirmed.
May 1 Called PGN to find out we had been kicked out since April 24th.
May 2 Attorney confirmed he retrieved our file before PGN closed it's doors for an internal investigation.
May 6 Heard we are back in PGN. PTL! untrue
May 15th Emailed to double check and just as we feared... we have not been put back into PGN.
May 18th Signed and stuffed support letters. Praying like crazy for God's provisioning to bring Baby home.
May 21-25 Tenth year anniversary in Guatemala meeting our sweet baby and considering (or confirming) a calling to missions in Guatemala permanently.
June 9th Re-entered PGN
July 4th Birthmother Interview in PGN
July 15th OUT of PGN!!!!!!!
July 23rd Birthmother's final consent and applied for Mixco birth certificate listing us as parents.
July 30th Adoption halted for final payment
Aug 1st Miracle! Final fee donation
Aug 15th DNA approved by Labcorp to prove the baby has not been switched.
Aug 18 Email sent from US Embassy in Guatemala caught in CAM's spam filter! We won't know about our "pink slip" for 6 days.
Aug 25th We miss our 7:15am US Embassy appointment.
Aug 26th Aaron at US Embassy begging for mercy. Jackie's last night with at her foster home.
Aug 28th US Embassy issues a travel visa to a grateful Daddy. They are "clear for take-off!"
Aug 29th Jonathan meets his lil sis for the first time at Dulles Airport!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why the name Jacqueline?
One question we hear a lot is how we chose the name Jacqueline. First let's pronounce it right. The middle 'que' is pronounced KWUH as in "JAK kwuh lin". Aaron doesn't "hear" the big difference between Jak-lin, Jak-uh-lin, and Jak-kwuh-lin, but those are 3 distinct names. Promise. If you aren't sure you are spelling it right, make sure you have an even 10 letters. That silent e in the middle que is easy to miss. Luckily saying Jackie is a no-brainer.
She is named after Mom who passed away from a typical cold turned pneumonia turned bizarre complications turned unfortunate medications/dosages turned respiratory distress she started the weekend she sat on a parent's advisory board forum for new parent the first week of my (Carrie's) sophomore year. Mom and I were very, very close and her passing devastated me then and still pains me at the oddest moments today ... when I smell Beautiful at the Estee Lauder counter, see figure skating on TV, or when I volunteer to bring cupcakes in for Jonathan's school just like she would have stayed up late bake.
She is named after Mom who passed away from a typical cold turned pneumonia turned bizarre complications turned unfortunate medications/dosages turned respiratory distress she started the weekend she sat on a parent's advisory board forum for new parent the first week of my (Carrie's) sophomore year. Mom and I were very, very close and her passing devastated me then and still pains me at the oddest moments today ... when I smell Beautiful at the Estee Lauder counter, see figure skating on TV, or when I volunteer to bring cupcakes in for Jonathan's school just like she would have stayed up late bake.
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